What do we do when we are faced with tough situations? You know the kind that eat at you in the middle of the night, give you that weak feeling, the feeling of needing to defend yourself or maybe even worse, attack others.
Do we lash out? Absorb the pain? Ignore it? Go tell our problems to someone else? Or drop our negative feelings on friends in hopes we rally support to gain others to join our cause.
Here’s the big question…what is that type of approach solving and how does that relate to your own individual growth? How about the growth of others around you?
Here is a term to consider…”Compassionately Courageous.”
It spawns from the understanding that although it is important we stand up for ourselves and preserve our individual power, acting from a compassionate place has the power to produce dually positive effects. It takes into account the intent and manner in which we use the wisdom of our feelings when faced with difficult and emotionally charged situations.
We don’t want to hurt our brothers and sisters here, we do realize that we are all connected in some capacity, we may not like to admit it because it sounds fluffy and ultimately may make us look at ourselves in a way that feels uncomfortable, yet we instinctually know deep down, we are one. These brothers and sisters, our genetic ones, our coworkers, our students, our clients, they are ultimately an extension of our own selves.
Our brothers and sisters thoughts and actions represent the mirror to how we, you and me show up in to the world.
They may drive us mad at times, make us question our competence and sense of self, yet they are still a part of us. For it is from our connection with them, we learn so much about our own selves and to the extent in which we are willing to show up for life on a daily basis.
The next time we are faced with a difficult situation, use courage first by approaching the person directly with whom we have the problem and hold the space of compassion by seeing our own selves in them.
Be courageous and communicate with them by looking at them in their eyes, for you will find their connection to you was there all along…